Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Blast the DAMN Email!

Seriously! I have been trying to find time to write this post for some time now. Over the years I have been hearing time after time about companies who have serious communication issues. I have worked for and consulted for companies like this. As hard as one works to improve the problem, the reality is bad communication in organizations is like smoking, overeating, & cussing. Sometimes its just a hard habit to break.

Communication problems are not new but what seems to be a commonality in companies in more recent years is they seem to rely too heavily on EMail rather than picking up the phone or walking 10 feet across the hall to talk "in person" to their coworker, supervisor, or owner. Personally I think hours of employee labor could be saved if folks would consider the good old fashion way of communicating.

Don't get me wrong, I too have been known to rely on it too heavily at times as well. I'm not perfect by any means but I can recognize that at some point a little personal contact can do the organization and people involved a great deal of good. I had a situation like this just yesterday and could tell when one individual who threw out the ball (opinions overhead) they started feeling bad that they did. I picked up the phone as soon as I could and I think the result is that we are both more clear about what was going on and are better equipped that we were before to handle the situation proactively as we move forward. Had I let the problem continue via email we may not have been able to move on and get it behind us as quickly as we did.

I am not sure where and when this overuse of email problem starts. I do know that I have to remind my students often to use the phone when they don't hear from group members. What I have noticed is that it seems to be a cultural acceptance issue. I have one client who use to send "written notes" before email became a popular means of communication. That same client now uses email to demand information from each other, blame others for the job not getting done, and drag the problem on for much longer than necessary. Imagine how much more productive they would be if they put people first and blast the DAMN email in their business. Until someone steps up and says STOP it the shit will continue to stir. Employees and Managers alike need to recognize when the email is driving communication down and do something about it.

Friday, December 9, 2011

Accommodating Employees Who Serve as Senior Caregivers

Aging population impacts business operations and its bottom line due to the effects of senor care-giving on staff. The average worker will spend more years caring for a senior than they will care for children. Care-giving falls on women more often than it does on men. How does this issue impact your business and what can you do to ameliorate its effects?

The senior population is large enough that it is statistically improbable that any employee could avoid care-giving issues. These events most often occur for employees in their 40’s 50’s and 60’s. To date, there are no “Senior Lamaze” classes to prepare adult children for this role and its management. While couples have nine months to prepare for a baby, the role of senior care-giver usually begins with an emergency telephone call. The surprise leads to an adrenaline rush as our bodies prepare for fight or flight. Prolonged exposure to stress causes deleterious health effects. Thus, your bottom line health care costs can be improved by preparing and supporting staff who are senior care-givers.

One worker stated that his mother was still able to drive and care for herself. He recalled that, last February, he had taken her to the ER four times. He commented that these previous emergencies could lead to his future care-giving role. Most employees have not had a conversation with a senior professional. Does your human resources department have information available? Do you know about the “Lunch & Learn” program for care-givers run by the Area Agency on Aging for Lincolnland and its Caregiver’s Conference on August 16th? Did you know about the care-giver support programs through Third Age Living at ST. John’s Hospital?

When discussing care plans after the telephone call, many adult children recall events that were actually indicators but not recognized. When emergency calls come to your employees, they must take time off to handle the crisis. The parent who lives out of state requires even longer periods away from the job. Is your business prepared for that? If the emergency comes during your busy season, have you cross-trained others to keep things going if an employee is out? What would happen to your business if you were out? We have tornado shelters in this area Does your business have a senior caregiver support shelter system?

The effect on the employee goes beyond the time away from the office. Other care-giving related calls will happen during the day. Doctors, medical labs and nursing services operate during business hours. Staff who have been up all night may be more likely to have accidents or become ill themselves. What policies for family leave does your company have and are these shaped for the special needs of senior care-giving?

Every work place has celebrations of baby showers or funeral gatherings. Aside from social functions, these events herald a new status for the employee. They can become forums for advice, support or information-sharing. Our culture has not yet evolved a social forum for the new senior care-giver. It is helpful for a new care-giver to know of others in the same situation. Who is the ‘social leader’ in your organization? Does she know the current senior care-givers? Could she be assigned to put staff in touch with the new care-giver?

Part of the stress adult children experience comes from the aging process. Parents will often tell out-of-town children that they are “fine”. Parents may not ask for help before a crisis occurs. Simultaneously, adult children, aged 40-to-65, are in the most responsible portions of their careers. Thus, care-giving crises collide with the rising duties on the job. One adult child, a business owner, received a call from the police department. Her father had forgotten to pay the telephone bill and service was cut. He fell crossing an icy street to reach the neighbors. Her parents lived out of town. Employees who expect their parents to ask them for help will rarely receive such a request. In fact, as the capacities of the parent begin to diminish, they may be even more insistent on their autonomy. Insight is the mind’s most fragile flower, and it’s first to wither with age.

This is the first time in human history people are living to ages of Biblical length. Information geriatric professionals are learning has not filtered down to the average employee. One way to improve your bottom line and keep your employees in good health is to create a conduit for information by offering lunch time sessions, to discuss care-giving. An adult child said that his mother lived out in the country. She called him one night, fearfully, because a strange car was driving up the road to her house. He did not know which authority was responsible for her safety, nor did he have that telephone number. Sometimes a stress-reliever for the employee is as simple as acquiring basic information ahead of events.

Employee stress can also come from the interpersonal dynamics of adult siblings facing the parent care issue. Whether you notice an employee distracted after a sibling’s call or an employee quits and moves to care for a parent; you are not getting the help you hired them to provide. To keep good staff, help them to keep good relations as they deal with these parent-related issues: another good lunch-time forum topic. Remember Dicky Smuther’s classic line; ”Mom always liked you best!” It’s funny on television; it isn’t so funny when siblings deal with their parent’s care.

Another adult child asked, “When are they going to offer a course called, “Becoming a Parent to Your Parent”? She explained the emotions involved in the role reversal as well as her efforts to recognize that her parent as an adult. There are a number of books on this subject or this topic could be a lunch-time discussion. Would the capital expense of putting together a small lending library be less expensive than paying for the health care and operations costs incurred from senior care?

This is a Guest Post by Sara Lieber, Senior Sidekicks, Medical Visit Companion Services
seniorsidekicks@gmail.com; (217) 787-5866; www.seniorsidekicks.com

Saturday, December 3, 2011